As a Lover, you will find yourself as someone who’s naturally gifted to charm others. Effortlessly, you can draw the person you want towards you, as you will appear to be attractive to them. 

Being a master of knowing and loving yourself inside and out, you know what it takes for people to desire you and how you can match that desire. Thus, on top of your pleasing personality and seductive aura, you being you is simply irresistible. As such, you are often the epitome of human desire, that highly coveted prince or princess in the whole kingdom. 

Thus, you are often liked by those around you. And for you, this is the ultimate meaning of life – creating meaningful relationships. Seeking unity above all else, you are willing to make sacrifices and learn new skills in order to make things happen.  

Basic Qualities

Extrovert

You are: 

• Likeable/Cheerful
• Confident
• Energetic
• Thill-seeking/Daring
• Gregarious

As an extrovert, you exude positive energy. You confidently carry that contagious power to do things. You are never afraid of your flaws, for you understand that it is part of who you are. Instead, you take pride in your battle scars, constantly signifying your challenges and the accolades that come with them. 

More importantly, you are also thrill-seeking and daring. This means that you’re determined to constantly try new things out. Finally, being gregarious necessitates being with others. As an extrovert, you thrive in expressing yourself to those around you, as their attention gives validation to your own identity. 

Things to pay attention to: 

• Boredom levels
• Co-dependency
• Self-centeredness
• Lack of Identity
• External Verification of Self-Esteem

Being an extrovert, you are prone to the possible weaknesses mentioned above. For one, you have the tendency to be self-centered. Since you seek your own happiness above all else, those around you can sometimes become a tool instead of a companion. 

The same also holds true as you search for self-validation. Relying on people’s praises and appreciation may bite your back, as they can also subtly shape who you are. Left unchecked, these traits may lead you farther from knowing yourself, as you unknowingly allow others to shape your reality. 

We-Centeredness

You are: 

• Altruistic
• Cooperative
• Moralistic
• Empathetic
• Optimistic

We-centeredness means that you allow others to become part of your reality. Because you seek to strongly integrate your existence with those around you, you shape your goals in a way that helps them as well. With that, you take into account how others think and feel. 

Furthermore, you also consider the moral implications of your own choices in conjunction with your relationships with others. Instead of simply deciding on your own, this basic quality perceives your existence as contextualized by the people around you. Thus, this leads to a more optimistic role, especially when you’re seeking the common good. 

Things to pay attention to: 

• Perceiving self-boundaries
• Lack of assertiveness
• Becoming a people pleaser
• Relying on others for growth

Integrating yourself with others also has its own set of consequences. Because you identify yourself as part of a group, your growth and identity are also defined by this collective. And when it is filled with toxic waters, this can unwittingly cloud who your are. 

Add to that, an unchecked we-centeredness means that you’ll allow people to take advantage of you. Just as how abusers control altruistic individuals, your lack of assertiveness will lead to a plethora of problems for you. Ranging from lack of self-esteem to becoming overly submissive, you’ll become a puppet without you knowing it. 

Intuitive

You are: 

• Sensing
• Open
• Adaptable
• Trusting
• Spiritual

Relying on your powers of intuition, you are likely to see things from a transcendental point of view. Instead of simply relying on facts, you understand that life goes beyond the laws of reason and logic. Thus, this allows you to unmask the inner workings that go beyond the five senses. 

With this, you understand that not everything makes sense. Whereas other archetypes are often limited by reason, you are able to go beyond it and access your spiritual prowess. This, in turn, makes you more adaptable to varying circumstances, often offering insight that others lack. 

Things to pay attention to: 

• Subjectivism
• Confusion
• Disorderliness
• Gullibility

Because you rely on your intuition a tad too much, you are prone to becoming subjective. Whereas your gut feelings can sometimes lead you to the right thing, it won’t always do. One day, the chickens will come home to roost as the consequences of your decisions will pay out negatively. 

Often, this manifests in confusion and gullibility. Since you’ve accustomed yourself to spirituality, you might end up being conned by others. Taking advantage of your beliefs and baseless thinking, others will end-up tricking you into things that you would’ve otherwise avoided. 

Turbulent

You are: 

• Humorous
• Understanding
• Spiritually deep
• Self-improver

Turbulence is often perceived negatively. After all, this relates to the idea of one’s emotional instability. However, turbulence isn’t always as bad as people put it to be. Instead, this basic quality empowers a different kind of drive – one that digs deeper towards oneself. 

In general, people are turbulent primarily because they’ve established a strong connection with their emotions. Because of this, they become emotional. In a positive way, this allows them to relate with others well, as turbulent individuals can get a better grasp of how things are going. 

Things to pay attention to: 

• Poor emotional regulation
• Anxiety
• Depressive symptoms
• Indecisiveness

Problems often arise as a result of your unstable emotions. For one, dealing with others can be problematic as the slightest irritation can result to unprecedented conflict. Unable to manage your reactions well, you can become feisty or even aggressive towards them. 

Clouding your judgment, turbulence can lead you to become indecisive.  If not, bottling in your emotional dissonance can lead to an endless swirl of internal problems. Manifesting in forms of anxiety and/or depression, your inability to regulate how you feel can accumulate negative feelings deep within. 

Strengths & Weaknesses

Strengths

Attractive

As a Lover, you are highly attractive. People will be naturally drawn into your circle as your presence encumbers them. Being an extrovert, you are confident and never afraid to show yourself for who you are. And because you’re a master of loving your own self, you will glow instead of being a wallflower.  

Of course, the result is people being drawn to you naturally. Like a socialite, you know how to dress, act, and speak in an alluring way. Displaying your extrovertness, you even know which perfume to use to properly match your outfit. Combining skill and self-love, you become the most attractive person in the room. 

Cooperative

Seeing the importance of the bigger whole, you understand the value of interconnectedness. Much like in eastern thought, you perceive things and their relational value to the greater whole. 

As such, you tend to become cooperative with your loved ones. Because of your we-centeredness, you know how important it is to promote a culture of respect and mutuality. By taking the first step, you seek to inspire others and move them towards the path of love and reciprocity

Open-minded

The Lover is one of the few archetypes who’s able to see life from different perspectives. Whereas other archetypes are usually fixated on an end goal of some sort, the Lover knows how to keep themselves open to the vastness of life itself. Understanding that there’s more to it than what meets the eye, the Lover never really limits themselves in one viewpoint.

Although the Lover tends to focus on one individual alone, the way they see life is from an open-minded perspective. Meaning, the Lover often welcomes new ideas. As such, the Lover is often perceived as a progressive liberal, someone who’s practically unafraid to explore and accept the aspects of life that are often rejected by others..

Understanding

On top of being open-minded, you’re also good at understanding others. Stemming from your turbulent personality, you have that welcoming vibe that exudes from your strong sense of emotionality. Because of this, people are naturally drawn to you, given how good you are at listening and aiding them in their personal dilemmas. 

More importantly, this strength comes from your strong sense of self. Having a deep relationship with your own self, you understand the implications and burdens of being conscious – the ability to reflect. Just as how one looks at the mirror, the Lover is a master of controlling their own reflection. 

Weaknesses

Struggles with Identity

Your extrovertness leads to one crucial flaw: your tendency to struggle with your identity.  Since extroverts gain validation through the recognition of others, the lack of it can also equate to a plethora of existential problems. Just as how a Lover will do whatever it takes for others to love them, they will end up seeking external validation and neglect the quest of inner self-discovery. 

This apparent weakness challenges who you are. As you seek to gain the love and approval of others, you lose yourself in the process. Doing everything you can in order to become desirable, you forget to desire yourself first. 

Prone to Jealousy

Jealousy is a constant inner battle that the Lover must perpetually face. Given how the Lover is a we-centered archetype, their inner value is sometimes hinged on those around them. While this can be good given how Lovers tend to dedicate themselves to others, a negative manifestation of it is as equally destructive. 

For instance, a jealous lover will stop at nothing in order to get what they want. Instead of highlighting their we-centeredness, the Lover focuses on the things that they’ve lost. This causes them to act irrationally (another manifestation of weakness) and pursue choices that can potentially destroy other’s lives. 

Irrational

Since you act based on intuition, you have a strong tendency to throw away your reason and let your heart take over. For you, this is perfectly normal. Life, after all, is about following your heart, right? 

While this Disney-esque type of perspective sells really well in movies, in reality, life is more than pursuing your heart. And in most cases, the mundane scenarios of life demands us to use reason and intellect in order to get by. It is never enough to simply follow our hearts and pursue our passions. Instead, we need well-examined plans and concrete actions to back it up. 

Predisposition to Anxiety

As a turbulent personality, you manifest some form of anxiety from within. While this is certainly common among all other archetypes, the Lover dwells with anxiety on an entirely different level. Constantly striving to be accepted by others, the fear of rejection alone is more than enough to make you feel anxious. 

Think of it this way – since the Lover archetype seeks to build meaningful and lasting relationships, an unaccomplished Lover archetype will always feel that inner pressure. As you seek to validate your meaning and existence through others, this can cause you problems when you are being rejected.

Romantic Relationships

Fun-Loving

As the master of love and relationships, you are certainly the fun-loving type. You know that love is like an endless tug of war, where the perpetual tension of pushing and pulling is what makes a relationship fun and exciting.

Given such, you’re the type to constantly make games and explore new things within the relationship. You never settle for just one thing, even when you love settling for just one person. Instead of simply comforting you and your partner with what’s familiar, you always give extra effort to seek out new ways to do the same old things in a relationship. 

Openness

Openness is one of the key tendencies of a Lover in love. Since they are the type who accepts life as it unfolds, they never limit themselves to what tradition or society sets. That’s why the Lover archetype is one of the few who can truly understand the meaning of love – boundlessness. 

Whereas other archetypes can be limited by norms or structures in society, the Lover sees no bounds. Instead, they follow their heart. They follow their passion and pursue it no matter what it takes.  They see life beyond what’s set in stone and accept the differences among individuals. 

Friendships

Emotionally Dependent

As a friend, you are the emotionally dependent type. Like someone who constantly seeks others’ attention, you will endlessly send them messages over in social media just to have someone to talk to. Being that close buddy who’d go for 2am conversations while staring at the stars, you seek that kind of intimate bond with those around you. 

And because you are emotionally dependent, you’ll constantly need that outlet which will allow you to express your inner anxieties. As we’ve mentioned before, the Lover is one of the few archetypes who has this strong tendency to dabble on unwanted thoughts. Thus, having a loyal friend or even a set of friends is certainly a ‘must’ for you. 

Placing others first

One key trait of your archetype is the fact that you seek to place others before yourself. Similar to the Caregiver, you embody a tendency to dedicate yourself to others as a result of your we-centeredness. Although, it is important to note that you exhibit this tendency in far different ways. 

More importantly, your deep self-understanding makes it easier for you to devote yourself to your friends. Because you know how your feelings work as you constantly battle with your inner thoughts, dealing with others becomes a piece of cake. Regardless of what context they’re in, you’ll be able to give them that warmness as you know exactly what to do in order to comfort your friends.   

Workplace Habits

Loves to Reach Out 

In the workplace, the Lover is good at reach out. Naturally inclined to build meaningful relationships with those around them, they will usually be the one to take the first step in engaging with co-workers. As a Lover, you are likely to exhibit this habit and will be willing to even guide team members towards achieving the tasks. 

Generally, your ability to mingle with people helps you easily deal with others. Instead of having that awkward air, you can easily break such silence with your charm alone. In doing so, people begin easing out. They open up to you as you seek to build stronger ties with them. 

Works well with teams

Other archetypes are just more suited to work alone. But for the Lover, they recognize that they won’t get the tasks done alone. Thus, they always seek-out help in any way they can, not because they simply want to rely on others but because they seek to build a culture of sharing and reciprocity. 

With this group-orientedness, you are able to exhibit your extrovertness in a positive way. Whereas other archetypes tend to do this by being overly dominant (Ruler Archetype) or overly submissive (Innocent Archetype), you are an exemplary of balance. Meaning, when you exude that positive and contagious energy, you aren’t doing so in a way that offends others. 

Seeks to build strong ties

The Lover, in the workplace, is known to build strong ties. Whereas other members simply see their co-workers according to their roles and functions, the Lover goes beyond this by recognizing the human aspect in them. Instead of reducing them to mere cogs in a machine, the Lover recognizes that their co-workers also have their emotional and non-work related feelings. 

This strength, when used correctly, allows the Lover to build a real human connection with their co-workers. Such can positively influence the team as they are able to work in a closely-knit environment. 

Laser-focused Passion

While one’s turbulence is often counted out as a negative trait, the Lover’s ability to translate it into passion is unrivaled. Able to push themselves to the edge, the Lover’s dedication to a particular task allows them to pummel through any challenge that they may encounter. 

In the workplace, when the lover is in love with their job, they are passionate. Unlike others who are simply there to earn a living, the Lover will dedicate themselves to it. Just as how passionate co-workers do their job, the Lover will not only execute things but also double check them. On top of that, they will also do some projections as they assess the overall direction of a particular project.