It's worth remembering that success comes in 'cans,' not 'cannots.' It's particularly worth remembering this where you nurture a negative expectation. When we believe we're right to focus on a negative outcome, the last thing we want to hear is somebody telling us to adopt a more positive mindset. But if you can do that now, then you could discover that something you're keen to achieve isn't as beyond your reach - or ability - as you might believe it to be.
It's often by doing something for others that we experience the most joy and satisfaction. But when we focus similar levels of effort toward ourselves, we can, amazingly, be seen as selfish. It could be a need on your part to apply more self-care that causes somebody to feel slighted or ignored. In truth, they may have become a bit too accustomed to what you've been giving. If you sense the time is right to focus more on your wants and needs, then trust that thought.
It's interesting how doing something normal or ordinary can provide the grounding we need at times. We all know what it's like to immerse ourselves in a task with music on in the background and discover that we were lost in our own world as we completed it. If you need to lose yourself briefly while applying focus where it's needed, then you could find it's possible to strike a helpful and productive balance.