As if the previous year hasn’t been challenging enough for our hearts, Mercury Retrograde is set to fall on Valentine’s Day this 2021. From January 30 to February 20, astrologers warn against the mayhem that Mercury’s backspin will bring to the romance department. Whether you’re single or currently in a relationship, it pays to know how this retrograde will affect your connection with friends and partners.

Because Mercury rules over our communication and thinking, its retrograde means that misunderstandings and confusion in these aspects are to be expected. These can lead to a huge fight, especially within a relationship. 

So, does this mean that this year’s Valentine’s is a disaster waiting to happen? 

Of course not! While there are surely a lot of cautions to consider this love month, it doesn’t necessarily mean that your romantic plans will all be put to waste. You just have to pay extra attention to how you express your thoughts and intentions. To know more about the do’s and don’ts, here is a guide to surviving the dramatic Mercury Retrograde on Valentine’s Day.

The Do’s

Think Before You Speak

As mentioned, miscommunication is just around the corner, especially on the days leading up to Valentine’s. It is vital that you really think about what you say to your partner or friends. There’s nothing wrong with being honest and expressing your true feelings, but you have to do it in a manner that will make them understand where you are coming from. With Mercury aligning with Venus, there’s a high chance that your words will be misinterpreted or taken the wrong way.

If you’re planning to open up about a sensitive topic, think deeply if now is the right time to really talk about it. Ask yourself if it can wait until Valentine’s is over. If yes, definitely postpone it. If no, make sure that you tread very lightly as you start this conversation. Avoid creating unnecessary tension this retrograde.

Express Yourself Through Body Gestures

Want to avoid miscommunication? Let your body speak for you. As Venus and Mars meet this love month, it’s time to tap into your sensual side. This retrograde season, body language is a safer bet to communicate instead of words which are more prone to misinterpretation. So instead of the usual date night and Valentine card, why don’t you surprise your partner with intimate activities? You can simply cuddle, or you can take it up a notch by planning a steamy night.

For those who are single, it’s time to put your flirting game to the test. If you’re eyeing someone, make sure that you let them know you’re interested through elaborate gestures. Go get that attention, hun!

Be Careful When Communicating Virtually

Another aspect that Mercury rules over is technology. Its retrograde calls for extra caution when using your social media and messaging applications. Make sure that you don’t commit typographical errors, especially when expressing something fundamental. Double-check too if you’re sending it to the right person! Again, you need to avoid any type of miscommunication brought about by Mercury’s retrograde. 

Also, one important thing to pay attention to when it comes to virtual communication is the art of sexting. You need to be very attentive to your partner’s response to make sure that you are both in the mood. If you’re not on the same page, forcing some dirty talk will surely lead to an argument.

The Don’ts

Don’t Plan A Complicated V-Day Celebration

Do not overdo your Valentine’s Day celebration. Yes, this is probably the most essential part of this guide to surviving the dramatic Mercury Retrograde on Valentine’s Day. The less complicated your plans are, the fewer mishaps there could be. Stick to a simple, yet meaningful celebration for you and your partner. Go back to what you both like. This could be as simple as cooking your favorite dishes or doing some activities that you both enjoy. When you go for a more elaborate plan, chances are you will face some logistical issues that may ruin your entire celebration. Remember that this retrograde is a time with lots of confusion and miscommunication. Stay on the safer side!

Don’t Obsess On Little Things Or Events

This Valentine season, extend your patience as much as you can. If you’re the type who gets triggered by the littlest of things, it’s time to rethink how you handle such situations. Reacting to every single inconvenience in your life will certainly lead to a bigger issue. In this retrograde, you can’t expect the people around you to understand you the way they usually do. Everyone is grappling with the negative energy that Mercury retrograde brings. The key here is to cultivate a laidback mindset and practice the art of letting go. You don’t need to hold on to every little detail of your day. Your partner was late? Ask why then carry on with your date. You can’t find the dress you’re supposed to wear? Just pull out another one. 

Be in charge of your response to everything.

Don’t Disregard Your Friends

For those in a relationship, a simple Happy Valentine’s message to your (single) pals will surely go a long way. Let them know that you still thought of them this Heart’s Day. For the single ones out there, have fun with your friends! Don’t underestimate the power of your connection with these people. You will be surprised how much you’d actually enjoy the Valentine’s with them. An intimate gathering with your closest friends will bring you all the heartwarming feelings you thought you’d miss out on. Invite your besties over. Watch a cheesy movie. Stuff yourselves with food. Drink your favorite wine. Who says Valentine’s Day is just for lovebirds?

Final Word 

Mercury Retrograde on Valentine’s Day may sound like a total doom, but you’ll still get the romance that you desire once you learn how to fend off the negative energy it brings. Just remember to take things slowly. Making harsh decisions will create more opportunities for misunderstandings. This Valentine’s, choose relaxation over extravagance. You don’t need to stress out over complicated preparations. The simpler the celebration, the better. Focus on your connection with your partner.

For the singles, this Valentine’s is all about reaching out to your friends. Cultivate your platonic relationships. Don’t let your singlehood hinder you from enjoying the love month. If you’re actively looking for a partner, Venus and Mars will help you gain the confidence you need to put yourself out there. However, be careful not to force any connection. The ultimate guide to surviving the dramatic Mercury retrograde on Valentine’s Day is to take things slowly.